Dear Abby: Handsy grandpa ruins relationship
Dear Abby I m and my boyfriend is We ve been dating for a insufficient months At a new family dinner his maternal grandfather hit on me I was helping to clear the dinner table and leaned across the table to grab specific dirty plates when Grandpa shoved his hand up my skirt Then he leered at me and my survival instincts kicked in I slapped him across the face so hard he fell off his chair It created a scene and my boyfriend s mother screamed at me My boyfriend s sisters tried to downplay what he did dismissing Grandpa s behavior as he s just a scamp I left the house in a hurry and the family is now talking about suing me for assault I m dumbfounded and now I m second-guessing myself I have recounted my boyfriend we are over and he s upset because we had a nice relationship I m no longer sure I can go forward with it Am I in the wrong here Should I apologize Shaken in New Jersey Dear Shaken You have no reason to apologize Your boyfriend s family should apologize to you Your boyfriend s grandfather is not a scamp He s an old man who appears to be losing control of his faculties You were not wrong to defend yourself If there is any more talk of suing you for assault after what Gramps did tell them you will file a police analysis about his inappropriate behavior which was far from harmless His next victim could be a minor Dear Abby In high school I had a friend who constantly described me he loved me I never returned the feelings We remained friends through high school college and early adulthood We married others and had children occasionally popping into each other s lives Four years ago we started texting a lot possibly times a day Two years ago we met up we live in different states now and met halfway and started a sexual relationship For months we met once a month The sex is awesome Conversations are amazing Then we stopped For the next six months we both worked on our marriages Neither of us is happy Two months ago we started meeting again I think I m falling in love with him I think he loves me but I also don t think he will leave his family We have known each other for years We know the sex is so good but we are also such good friends What should I do Reconnected in the Midwest Dear Reconnected You and this man are mature adults Ask him where he sees your love affair going Does he plan to continue the status quo or does he plan to leave his family If he is as good a friend as you feel he is he will give you an honest answer and you will know what to do Dear Abby When it s hot I like to take my shirt off in store parking lots and toss it into the cart while I unload It gives me specific relief from the scorching summer temperatures This seems relatively harmless to me but what do you think Bare-Chested Guy Dear Guy The answer depends upon how hot you are If you re a buff furry-chested male it s fine with me as long as you re wearing sunscreen Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
