Dear Abby: Mom sabotages healthy eating habits
Dear Abby I am a stepgrandmother of a disabled granddaughter Laura who has Down syndrome She is A limited years ago she weighed more than pounds at only feet tall She ended up in the hospital with blood clots and almost died The courts gave guardianship to her dad my son-in-law Laura s mother has visitation with Laura only one day a week for four hours When they are together she feeds Laura so much junk food that when Laura comes home she gets sick Her dad has spoken to his ex-wife about this issue but she continues to do it even though she knows the doctors have disclosed Laura has an eating disorder In the past scarce years my daughter has worked hard to help Laura and now Laura is down to pounds How can they get her mother on board to help Laura and stop giving her all this stuff that makes her so sick Looking on in Ohio Dear Looking On Laura s mother appears to have mental problems which may be why her visitations are limited Although feeding her daughter junk food may be the way she tries to show love preventing her from losing the weight she requirements to in order to be healthy is dangerous Your son necessities to explain what s going on to Laura s doctors and to the judge who decided how long and how often Laura s mother is allowed to see her A approach might be that those visits must be SUPERVISED Please suggest this Dear Abby I ve hosted a live podcast for years It s my creative outlet my therapy Lately my wife gave me an ultimatum I am not allowed to host the podcast anymore or she ll divorce me She says it s for us not her Her reason is mostly because I preach atheism as well as discuss numerous other topics She s a Christian I was a Christian when we met and married but I am no longer I want to respect her faith but I feel this is too much for her to ask My show is a piece of what I want to share and document with the world It s only a meager hours commitment a week and I don t do much else as far as recreation or hobbies I am employed and responsible and I fulfill all my duties as a husband I m terrified of losing either the show or my marriage Is this a fair thing for my wife to demand I have chosen to stop hosting the show for now and I m unhappy I d like my wife s blessing so I can continue Is there anything you would recommend Host in Exile Dear Host I don t know how far away in exile you are but if you live within the borders of the United States there is a certain amount of freedom of speech here Living according to your wife s dictate leaves you frustrated and unhappy You have the right to express yourself and you have an audience who appreciates it If she chooses to divorce you over this you may find it s a relief Call her bluff If you do you may discover you are happier following your own path rather than hers Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
